Things You Can Do to Help Your Children Succeed in School
At Home:
· Ask about their homework--what it is, when it's due--and check to make sure they do it.
· Provide a quiet place with a good light and away from distractions for them to do homework.
· Make sure they get a good night's sleep each night and eat a healthy, substantial breakfast each morning.
· Talk to them about school for at least a few minutes each day to let them know that you're interested and you think school is important.
· Teach them respect for others and responsibility for their own behavior.
· Make sure they get regular health and dental check-ups.
· Limit their exposure to TV and video games.
· Be positive about school. If parents say, "I wasn't good at school" or "I really didn't like school," this can turn children away from learning.
· Check your children's school website regularly to keep informed
At School:
· Attend back-to-school nights and parent/teacher nights to meet your children's teachers.
· If you are concerned about something, meet with your children's teachers promptly before a minor issue becomes a major problem.
· If possible, volunteer regularly, or even just occasionally, at your children's schools. You will get to know the school better and show your children that you consider education very important.
For more ideas and resources for parents, visit the National PTA website at www.pta.org.
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Tips for Parenting Teens—
Managing Anger and Conflict
Find yourself in situations with your teen when anger gets out of control—your teen’s and yours? Anger is a way for teens to assert their independence as they prepare for adulthood, but the struggle can be trying for parents. Parents may respond with their own anger.
Resolving conflict with your teen constructively is a big challenge, but it is important for the well-being of every member of your family.
When anger gets out of control, step back, calm down, and identify more positive, healthy ways to deal with it.
Tips for Calming Down
- Pick your battles. Sometimes the issue is not worth the anger, or worth arguing about.
- Take a deep breath and count to ten.
- Go for a walk
- Use “self-talk” to calm down. Say something to sooth yourself such as “I need to relax and stay calm.”
- Reframe the issue. Identify the underlying problem for the angry outburst and how to address.
- Use humor. But, be sure the humor is not sarcastic or hurtful.
Look at How You Manage Your Own Anger
- Do you express anger in positive and constructive ways?
- Do you resolve conflict well?
- Have you taught your children to accept and express their anger constructively?
Tips for Resolving Conflict
When you are calm, you can better deal with the issues that caused the conflict. Here are some tips:
- Give your point of view. State the problem as you see it; speak clearly and calmly—don’t yell.
- Ask to hear your teen’s point of view.
- Pay attention, listen, and carefully consider what your teen is saying.
- Discuss ways to solve the dispute without a battle.
- Practice the art of compromise. Find a middle ground that you and your teen can both live with comfortably.
- Assert your authority, when appropriate, but in a calm, yet firm manner.
If you find that anger becomes a chronic problem for someone in your family, you may want to get help from a mental health professional.
Source: Helping Your Children Navigate Their Teenage Years: A Guide for Parents, Dr. Robert Schwebel, White House Council on Youth Violence.
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